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Social stigma around pet loss still exists

0615webstrajapicBy Straja Linder King

Staring out the window of my cottage-like art studio, I am invited to a sensory feast of sounds and sights. A crow squawks, a jet roars on the celestial highway above while flocks of geese bark out commands overhead. The day is warm and teeming with life. We are at winter’s end. Bravely, I slide the window even further to breathe in the clarity of the clear blue sky. The window becomes an interactive canvas inviting me to a private viewing. What do I see?

I see a constant interplay of beginnings and endings. Myriad stories unfold and shift, viewing life through this portal to the outside world. On the left hand side of the window an empty bird’s nest sways precariously on the limb of the cherry tree. Across the yard, tangled branches shadow dance in the energetic winds and shifting light on my neighbour’s wall. On the cedar fence post a sassy magpie vies for the attention of my three dogs playing in the yard. Here as I sit staring out the window, I witness life and death comfortably entwined.

Birth and death are present always. Loss is inevitable yet we do not get the call to attention until the death impacts us directly. The death of a pet, a powerful call, impacts us with immediacy and full intensity. The death of a loving pet irrevocably changes us forever. The loss means one less family member and the pain can be debilitating. Put simply, grief is a broken heart. The absence of our beloved friend alters our home and hearts forever.

After working in pet bereavement for over two decades, I can clearly state that no two losses are alike. Grief is unique as one’s fingerprint. From the moment that death occurs we feel a heaviness that defies description. Grief and gravity combined are unbearable to hold. No recipe will circumvent or eradicate the pain due to the death of a beloved animal companion. The grieving process unfolds on its own volition and there are no short cuts.  Ignoring or minimizing this grief falls into the category of disenfranchised grieving. What does this mean? 

“Disenfranchised grief” means there is an existing social stigma to this type of death and the grieving process surrounding the loss. Depending on the bond, the death of an animal companion can wound our soul with the same intensity and magnitude as the grief we feel for a human death. Research demonstrates that the grief experienced due to pet loss can actually be higher than that of human loss. Even if the pet has only been in our lives for a short while. This is due to the relationship, proximity, and deep bonds created with our beloved pet.

When we adopt, rescue, or add animal companions to our family we are well aware that their life span will most likely be shorter than ours. However, this knowledge does little to lessen the pain of pet loss. Our head holds the logic about our longevity not being the same as our pets, yet our heart contains the feelings experienced together in our relationship with them. Hence, when people minimize or disregard the animal’s death the grief intensifies. The term for this exacerbated grief is known as “disenfranchised”, making the bereavement journey all the more difficult.

Therefore, validation is vital in assisting those experiencing the death of an animal companion. “Disenfranchised” best describes this type of grieving when the validation is lacking. For example saying: “It is only a pet,” and “You can always get another,” is hurtful and wounding to the soul. This thinking still exists and as a society, many are still not willing to honour this type of grief. An animal companion can never be replaced anymore than a lost human life and “getting another” sounds like restocking our fridge with depleted items. Our pets are members of the family too.

With the death of a pet many people live in the shadow of their grief. This merely exacerbates the grieving process. When time is not taken away from our work to allow for working through the loss, then emotions become bottled up. All this stems from the fear of embarrassment in sharing what they are feeling. When you hear co-workers respond with: “It’s just a dog, you can get another,” or “Thank goodness it was only an animal,” there is not much to say. This response simply perpetuates the stigma leaving the bereaved feeling isolated and filled with despair. No one should grieve alone.

Grief houses myriad responses, complicating the grieving process. The complexities may stem from a variety of sources such as unexpected deaths, witnessing a traumatic event, or feeling solely responsible for the death. Reactions to these types of complications affect us at every level — physical, emotional, spiritual, and social. We all grieve differently and we need to companion and support one another on the journey experienced due to loss.

We are evolving with sensitivity to this unspoken grief. Thankfully, I have lived to witness the journey of seeing the changes evolve. I will always remember the horrific experience of taking my therapy dog to a local animal hospital. My dog was undergoing many tests due to the mystery surrounding constant weight loss. He was not doing well. One morning we had to take him in unexpectedly as he was hardly moving. They weighed him on the scales and quickly escorted the three of us into the nearest examination room.

Sitting with deep fear in our hearts we gently stroked the fur of our handsome big boy waiting for the doctor to enter. The door to our room was left ajar. While we sat in dread of the “not knowing” the fate of our beautiful pet, another vet walked by. Stuffed under one of her arms was a limp but alive small dog and as she walked by our open room she irritatingly exclaimed, “I have another euthanization and need someone to help me in the back.” Upon witnessing this event, both of our hearts filled with terror at the thought of our community therapy dog receiving the same death sentence on that cold morning. How insensitive and careless in not thinking about others in the nearby rooms. Needless to say we never went back to that clinic again. Thank goodness our sensitivity has grown exponentially over the past decade. We want dignity for our pets facing end of life challenges.

Many veterinarians now include a quiet room where patients may wait the outcome of their injured or sick pet’s future. One clinic here in the city designed its new quarters to incorporate a quiet room for animals facing end of life. There are two doors so you need not go through the waiting room once you check in and are ready to see the doctor. This fosters dignity and displays sensitivity to meeting the needs of the pets and their guardians. You are invited to take your pet’s favourite toy and blanket to make your animal companion as comfortable as possible. Being in a home-like room is calming when you are already in distress. I have been blessed to experience this with two of my animal companions and having a quiet room was extremely helpful.

And some veterinarians make house calls in order that the pet is as comfortable as possible. Also, this allows the entire family to be involved and creates a ceremonial area right in their home. This also facilitates children or other pets being able to witness the pet’s end of life if they wish. There are many ways to create rituals and ceremony to commemorate your pet depending on the circumstances. Having these options available allows you to be aware of the many avenues to explore prior to an emergency. This knowledge will surely mitigate some of the anxiety when faced with emergencies and end of life situations with your beloved animal. We all can contribute and carry this sentient wisdom in assisting those experiencing the loss of a partnership that fosters happiness and loving kindness. Our animal companions deserve this dignity.

—Straja Linder King is a board-certified clinical art therapist and clinical animal-assisted art therapist. She practices at her Strawberry Moon studio with certified therapy dogs, Twillow Rose and Tala Rain. Visit www.strawberrymooncounselling.com for more info.

Animal assisted therapy helps humans heal without words

Georgia, a "Chimo" dog, helps students at the University of Alberta's Campus Saint-Jean relax during exams as part of its "Unwind Your Mind" stress relief project.

Georgia, a “Chimo” dog, helps students at the University of Alberta’s Campus Saint-Jean relax during exams as part of its “Unwind Your Mind” stress relief project.

By Sherry Warner

One of the oldest relationships on the planet is the human/animal bond. Those of us who are fortunate enough to share our lives with pets know what they bring to our lives — a sense of joy and unconditional love. And nowhere can you see the significance of this bond better than in the healing modality of Animal Assisted Therapy (AAT).

Kyla Rae, president of Chimo Animal Assisted Wellness & Learning Society, an Edmonton-based non-profit that assists in the development, planning, and implementation of AAT in a wide variety of settings, describes AAT as a goal directed intervention where the animal is an integral part of a structured treatment program.

“There are so many different situations you can put this adjunct therapy in place,” says Kyla. AAT can be used in a therapeutic setting, in educational institutions or as part of a physical therapy or occupational therapy program, she explains.

When psychologists and psychiatrists use AAT in their practices, the presence of the animal, whether the patient interacts with the animal or not, helps create a sense of trust, safety and security. “The patient sees that the animal is comfortable with the therapist and that the animal trusts them,” says Kyla. “That helps create that trust in a relationship that is dependent on trust.”

In a school setting, for example, with children who have ADD or autism, AAT may help encourage the behaviours teachers are looking for. “In that setting, if things get too rowdy or uncomfortable, the animal will walk away so then the kids realize that the dog is moving away and they will start to calm down and the animal will come back.”

Both the University of Alberta and the University of Calgary as well as other post-secondary institutions across Canada bring in dogs to help students relieve stress during exam time.

AAT can also be used in a physical or occupational therapy setting to help patients heal after an injury or surgery. “Often with seniors or people who have had severe trauma and needed surgery, they get to a point in their treatment where they plateau and don’t want to do anything that is asked of them in terms of rehab,” explains Kyla. But if there is a dog around, the therapist may suggest taking the dog for a walk to get the patient moving again.

Whatever setting AAT is used in, the goals are chosen by the professional — whether it’s a librarian, social worker, nurse, teacher, psychologist or psychiatrist — and their client or patient depending on the situation.

 

Straja Linder King's patient, Shannon, enjoys some down time with King's two therapy dogs, Twillow and Tala, at her Strawberry Moon Art Studio in Calgary.

Straja Linder King’s patient, Shannon, enjoys some down time with King’s two therapy dogs, Twillow and Tala, at her Strawberry Moon Art Studio in Calgary.

Straja Linder King is a board certified, registered clinical art therapist and a pioneer in art and  animal-assisted psychotherapy. With the assistance of her two Shiloh Shepherds, Twillow Rose and Tala Rain, Straja counsels patients experiencing all types of challenges from grief to stress, developmental or learning disabilities and addiction to those suffering disease such as cancer or Aspergers Syndrome.

“AAT is a wonderful treatment modality that is effective because it’s non-verbal,” says Straja. “I love that I’ve merged the animal assisted therapy with the art therapy because that gives me a language that’s older than words.”

Animals are incredible because they’re totally unbiased, they’re non-judgmental and they don’t care about your value and belief system, she says. If people are shut down, grief stricken and haven’t showered for days, there is something incredible about an animal being non-judgmental, explains Straja. “They can make a connection with the animal without rejection and criticism.

“If you are in the darkest night of your soul, brushing your teeth is just not going to be high on the order. It’s all you can do to get your butt out of bed and actually put some clothes on,” she adds. “The dogs help build trust in the therapeutic alliance so we can roll our sleeves up and do some of the deeper work.”

There are many benefits to patients of AAT. Through all of the research that has been done on this kind of treatment, there are five benefits to patients that studies consistently reveal, says Kyla. They are reduced anxiety, increased social interaction, increased attendance, increased motivation and reduced depression.

Shiloh Shepherds Twillow Rose and Tala Rain are Straja Linder Kings therapy dogs.

Shiloh Shepherds Twillow Rose and Tala Rain are Straja Linder Kings therapy dogs.

In Straja’s practice and depending on the patient, Twillow and Tala help them understand healthy boundaries and the sacredness of play, enhance their social skills and learn how to communicate better and boost their confidence and self esteem.

“The animals create a positive relationship and that’s (the patient’s) first segue into safely working towards reengaging in society and communicating,” says Straja. “And it’s one of the first steps to initiate closer relationships with people.”

Not every dog is an ideal candidate for AAT. Dogs suitable to work in this field can be a purebred or a mixed breed but there are some innate qualities that make the best animal assisted therapy dogs. The dogs have to really like people, be friendly, have an even temperament and not be afraid of strangers or new situations, says Kyla. They need to be obedient to whoever is handling the animal. The can be very social in nature, but have to be able to focus on what they are there to do, she adds.

“We have lots and lots of rescue dogs, which make a fantastic example to use for the people you are working with,” says Kyla. “With some of these dogs and the situations they have come out of they’re still able to come and do this kind of really important work and do it confidently even though they suffered.”

Straja sums up the benefits of AAT when she says: “Animals make us better human beings. They are the best diet and medical plan there is.”

Chimo Animal Assisted Therapy:
Chimo AAT was founded in 1999 by Dennis Anderson, who at that time, was the Alberta president of the Canadian Mental Health Association. The organization was initially called The Chimo Project, and was named after Dennis’s animal companion, Chimo, a Blue Heeler/Labrador cross.

Dennis personally experienced the psychological benefits of human-animal interactions, and he aspired to obtain evidence that animals may be beneficial in the treatment of persons with mental health concerns.

The name “Chimo” comes from the Inuit toast for “good cheer”, which is what the organization hopes to bring to those suffering from mental illness. Chimo’s mission is to develop and make available effective animal assisted therapeutic services to health and social services providers. Chimo AAT supports effective AAT through program development, education and research evaluation.

Here is a run down of the work Chimo does:

• Recruit and certify therapy animals including dogs, cats, birds, rabbits, and mini-horses
• Recruit and train volunteers with qualified animals
• Train a wide variety of therapists to use animals to help their clients
• Facilitate ongoing AAT programs in our community
• Provide services to assist new facilities in creating and sustaining their own AAT programs

For more information visit www.chimoproject.ca

Strawberry Moon Counselling 
In addition to offering art and animal assisted therapy at her Calgary-based Strawberry Moon Art Studio, Straja Linder King teaches two full credit courses in the Addictions Program in the Faculty of Health Sciences at the University of Lethbridge: Introduction to art therapy with animal assistance and Merging animal assisted therapy and art therapy.

Straja also offers a number of workshops including Living On Artfully: Healing From Loss; Get Yer Ya-Ya’s Out; Animal Communication; and Soul Wisdom: Deeper Meaning Through the Arts to name a few.

For more information visit www.strawberrymooncounselling.com